Refusal skills; How to say No and mean it

There are many times when we need to say "No" but find it hard or do not say it well enough to convince the other person. This can include saying "No" to a guy who is after your heart, saying No to a kid who wants more sweets or even saying "No" to a lovers demand. Saying yes to a demand when you were supposed to say no can be so dangerous and in many times, people say No in a way which is not convincing. For example, many men have continued to pester women who do not love them simply because such women do not have good refusal skills. Here are some good ways you can say "No" and really mean it; If you are not ready to say No at that time, you can buy time by saying that you will get back to the person. Take all the time you need until the person gets tired. State exactly how you fell with a serious look on your face and be direct and honest. A person will look at your face and see that you are serious. Do not apologize for your decision and values the person may take your "No" not serious Use direct eye contact when you are rejecting the person's demand, when you look away, the person may not believe you. Use a firm and friendly tone of voice, it hits harder than a hard voice Use the other person name, for example, "James, I do not love you"